Since becoming a mum it has been hard and busy at times. I mean the washing just never seems to have an ending, imaginary play after a while drives you insane, I am an expert in double shuffle nappy changes, we have had years of interrupted sleep, lots of appointments, crying, screaming, shouting and not forgetting I am now sporting the bags under the eyes look on a daily basis. However, even though I can be driven insane at times, becoming a mum has been the most enjoyable and rewarding thing I have done.
The one thing I really did not foresee coming was the loneliness.
My husband works in London and the commute is long, which leaves me with the girls on my own from morning til night Monday – Friday. In that time the only conversations I have are with a 1 and 2-year-old, and the majority of the time it’s like a puzzle trying to work out what they have said. As soon as hubby walks through the door I am talking at him 100 miles an hour, trying to tell him as much information of the day as possible, because after all, I have been longing for that adult conversation.
The majority of my friends don’t live near me and seem to have stopped inviting me to things, in a way deciding for me that I could not make it, rather than allowing me to make that decision. To be fair to them they can’t relate to anything I am going through now because I am at a completely different stage in my life. I do hope they catch up soon though.
With needing that adult conversation I have attended a few playgroups, and some can be wonderful don’t get me wrong, but I have had a few bad experiences that make me never want to return. There seemed to be too many cliques there and no-one was reaching out to welcome me or take any interest. In a way, it makes the loneliness worse because now I am here in a crowded room all on my own.
I decided to make a change the other month and stop myself continuing down this lonely path. I joined a site called Mummy Social. Here most if not all of the other mums have exactly the same feeling of being lonely and in a way lost as I do. I can chat to other mums, grab a coffee with one or organise/go to a social locally. By joining gives me the ability to make new friends in my area and find support from thousands of mums.
I also have been given the opportunity to be a Local Ambassador for my area and went on my first social a couple of weeks ago. I can honestly say it was such an amazing experience because finally there were other mums that I could talk to about anything and everything. No-one was made to feel left out and it was nice to hear other people’s stories of why they joined Mummy Social as well. I came away from that social feeling so happy and re-energised with how wonderful motherhood is as a whole. In no way am I lonely or lost as a mother. I am very much present with a whole calendar of socials coming up for myself and the girls to attend.
So please don’t be bored, don’t be lonely, get Mummy Social!