Before entering motherhood I lived, worked and socialised in the big city of London. I had friends everywhere that I saw regularly, but that was until I bought a house in the country and started a family.
You see, when you become a parent you learn very quickly who your ‘true’ friends are. Your friendships with some people change or shift in a way that you end up losing them. Not because you don’t like them anymore or something bad has happened, but just because everyone’s journeys are different and sometimes people just drift away.
“You have three types of friends in life; Friends for a reason, Friends for a season, and Friends for a lifetime”. – Ziad K Abdelnour
I am not the only mother to have lost friends through becoming a parent, but unfortunately, that is all part of it. I now have such a small circle of friends that I know are always going to be there for me, because they understand that my priority is my children. We don’t have to speak or communicate in any way for days, weeks or even months, but when we do, it is like nothing has changed. They are there for me no matter what and I hope they realise it is vice versa.
“True friendship isn’t about being inseparable, it’s being separated and nothing changes”. – Unknown
Having children does change everything, but not always for the bad. The friends that have stayed with me epitomises what friendship is, and just as some friends are exiting my life, I have a number of new friends entering it.
Have you experienced losing friends?