There are certain things in life, milestones, that you just know you’ve got to do. Finishing school for instance, perhaps going to University, learning to drive, etc. The list could be endless, and certain people might feel that they have to meet certain milestones because of pressure from their family and friends. But, there is one thing I want to make clear and that is everything should be done as and when you feel it’s the right time. You should not be in any rush to meet certain milestones, especially by the people around you adding pressure. Rather than stressing over it, just let things fall into place and it will make for an easier life. Don’t get me wrong I am not suggesting you shouldn’t work towards certain goals, because you definitely should, but how quickly or slowly you do it is up to you. If you feel though you would like some guidance on how you can reach the major milestones that society will expect you to meet then look no further.
The Moving Out Milestone
When it comes to moving out you have either done it, about to do it or haven’t done it how society thinks you should have. Should you move out and rent, or should you buy somewhere? There is a lot of conflicting advice out there, I mean just think back to when you were younger, and you and your partner were deciding to move out. That’s if you have moved out already. The easy option, of course, is to rent, and for a lot of people, that is what they decide to do. By renting it gives you the freedom to move out quickly and is cheaper. However, many people look at renting for a few years in the view to being able to buy a property down the line, but then for some reason get stuck in a renting cycle. So, if you’re stuck in the renting cycle at the minute, it’s time to think about getting out of it!
The first thing you need to do is work out what type of home you want to buy, and some will be cheaper than others. A new launched condo is going to be a little more pricey than perhaps an older home. You will often find that you can get more for your money elsewhere, so sometimes to get as near to what you want as possible, you may need to spend some more money in order to get it. If you have the money to do so then there’s nothing wrong with it, so add that factor into the equation when you set up a savings fund. When Doug and I both got stable jobs and had savings built up it was at that time I said now we need to do it, it is time. Just remember it is a marathon, not a sprint. You are working towards something.
The Family Milestone
With this milestone, I think a lot of people who read my blog have already met, whether it was planned or not. It can come as a shock to the system, but when you reach the family milestone, it is truly the most magical thing that has ever happened. However, if you are a reader that has not got to this stage yet then please do not feel pressure to do so. Starting a family is a big move. Not only will you have a little human that will be relying on you for pretty much everything, but it will throw your whole financial situation up in the air. It is only when you are ready, should you consider starting a family. In order to prepare yourself for such a big step, I recommend you make sure you are happy where you are with your job, happy with the home you have, and of course are happy where you stand financially. Doug and I pretty much had all these 3 things ticked off before we tried, but my job did not really count for much because I was not going to go back after maternity leave anyway.
If you are having trouble to conceive then please don’t worry yourself about it. I struggled to conceive after having a miscarriage and it really took a lot of strength out of me, but I soon realised that it is highly common for women to struggle. If you think about it for the majority of our lives we are on birth control, which really does mess up your systems inside. I stopped taking birth control and never had a period for almost a year which was crazy, but it did come back. All you need to do is give yourself time. Make a note of when you ovulate and do a little bit of research as to whether the things in your diet and exercise can affect your chances of getting pregnant.
The Work Milestone
This milestone is confusing because I don’t think anyone knows when or what to do to achieve it. I can honestly say I am not there yet, and couldn’t possibly be further away from it right now as I am a stay at home mum. It’s not when you got your first job, although that was a great step in life and one pretty much everyone should go through. It’s getting the job that you can happily say you want to spend the rest of your life in. Pretty much the same as marrying someone, you want to spend the rest of your life with them. So now you can understand why it is hard for people to say they have achieved it!?
To start with you will be working until you’re at least 65+, (the state pension age), which is a long time and will be hard to keep an interest in the job. The people who you work with are coming and going which is often what is most valuable when it comes down to your job. Then finally, it is hard to find a company that offers structured pay rises, which is when employees are just stuck on the same wage for years and years, even though the price of living just keeps increasing as time goes on. In order to achieve your work milestone, you are going to have to focus on what is going to make you happy from a job, and try and stay away from the ones that are going to give you the most money. I am learning now while I look after the two little ones at home what is the thing that makes me happy, so I can put that into searching for that perfect job and hopefully fulfil this milestone too.
Are there any other life milestones that you feel as though you’re yet to meet?
I would love to hear them!
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